Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Day 45 - Commitment

Commitment. Why does that scare people so much? What about that word incites feelings of stress, worry, fear and 'lack of freedom'? Relationships is the first thing that pops into my head when I think of committing to something. But really when you think about it, commitment comes in many forms, and probably scare us in different ways. 

We commit to things regularly - a new job (a contract?), a coffee date with a friend, fitness goals, making dinner, - even what tv show to watch - and for some people committing to watching it on a regular basis. I like the quote above because I think commitment is a conscious decision to see something through. 

Why should commitment be seen as a negative thing?! I mean I am committed to maintaining my fitness and I see that as a hugely positive thing. And when you are committed to something, does not mean that you are committed to that for the next 100years with no ability to change your path or your mind. But when we live in limbo - lost and drifting, because we are scared to commit to something or anything. Even if you find you've committed to something and feel that it's not working for you, you can stop, reassess and move on. It's what people do ALL THE TIME with jobs / careers. 

If we take the example of a relationship..you start with the commitment to go on a date, then a commitment to continue dating, a commitment to see someone regularly , a commitment to formally 'date' etc. So when we break it down the term "commitment" is really irrelevant as you have a lot of small commitments to get to where you currently are. When you commit to going on a date with someone - you haven't committed to marry, move in and spend the rest of your life with them! You're allowed to take it step-by--step and see where things go.

You do need to commit to having a go though! How will you ever know if you don't?! And when you are passionate about something you are committed to each step with so much energy that the wording of it is irrelevant. 

So next time the term "commitment" makes you nauseous or panicky, think about what exactly you are committing to! Is it a lifetime of something with no ability to change? Or is it a small step toward something that might grow into something bigger?! Oh, this can also be applied to all areas of your life…not just relationships! 

…Until Tomorrow xox

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